'God forbid if they're fat': Vogue editor Anna Wintour's BRUTAL rules for the magazine's Met Gala staff revealed in new book - that also details moment the infamously frosty fashionista fled the event in TEARS after spat with her boyfriend

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Anna Wintour has long earned the sobriquet 'The Ice Queen' not only for her haughty and imperious air, but for the relentless and sometimes cruel and brutal way in which she conducts her editorial meetings, arranges her social calendar, and in particular, the planning of the Met Gala— but despite this intimidating reputation in 1999, the Ice Queen began to melt and fled her famous party in tears. 

It was the second and only time after her mother's death that the late Andre Leon Talley (Wintour's colleague of 30 years), witnessed the legendary iceberg lose composure.

Despite the razzle-dazzle of 'fashion's most celebrated night', the infamously reserved editor, who was wearing a custom John Galiano dress, left the party early, with a flood of 'mascara-laced tears running down her face.' She had just suffered a nasty divorce after a torrid affair with her then boyfriend, Shelby Bryan, and this was their first public outing. 

Today, on the heels of the star-studded event last night, a newly published biography written by Amy Odell details the meticulous and almost obsessive planning that goes into 'the red carpet fashion event to end all red carpet fashion events.' 

Jam packed with juicy details, Odell chronicles how Wintour turned a staid fundraiser for the Metropolitan Museum of Art's Costume Institute into a profound and far reaching cultural event - pulled off by the Vogue Empress' battalion of planners and assistants under her decisive and punishing scrutiny. 

A new biography of Anna Wintour lifts the lid on the famous Vogue editor's 'militant' control over the annual Met Gala since she first took over as host and chairperson of the event in 1999

The author, Amy Odell chronicles how Wintour turned a staid fundraiser for the Metropolitan Museum of Art's Costume Institute into a profound and far reaching cultural event - pulled off by the Vogue Empress' battalion of planners and assistants under her decisive and punishing scrutiny

After hosting the celebrated gala in 1995, Wintour took over as chairperson of the event in 1999. 'It was the flashiest and most shocking party the Met had ever thrown,' says Odell.'After Anna transformed the gala from a charity party for sequined socialites to a celebrity event with mainstream appeal, interest in attending started to explode'

Wintour shocked guests when she had Sean 'Puff Daddy' Combs (seen above with his girlfriend, Jennifer Lopez) perform a live rap at the 1999 gala - causing Henry Kissinger to remark, 'Who is this fluff daddy?'

It's the hottest and most exclusive ticket in town. The high-profile fundraising gala has been hosted by Vogue's editor-in-chief Wintour, 72, for nearly 30 years now, and it marks the opening of the Costume Institute's annual fashion exhibit on the Upper East Side of Manhattan.

With her exacting taste and attention to detail, Wintour has become a powerful arbiter of deciding, 'who's in' and 'who's out.' For instance, the Hilton sisters, have never been invited to the party, despite being extremely relevant in the early aughts. Until 2013, the Kardashians were banned too. 

No money in the world could guarantee a ticket. 'You could have had a billion dollars, you were not going to get that ticket. . . . There had to be a reason for you to be in that room,' explained former Met Gala planner Stephanie Winston Wolkoff.

During the party, Wintour wants Vogue staff to know every single detail about each celebrity's arrival - including when they're going to get there (every star has their own prearranged time), what car they're going to come in, and what they're wearing. 

According to Odell, Wintour controls every aspect of the 700-person guest list, and decides who is allowed 'in' and who is 'out'

She has say in every aspect of the party and leaves no stone unturned: from the supervision of the seating chart (which she has turned into an exact science), to the exorbitantly expensive decorations, to the dinner menu (no parsley, garlic, onions, chives or fish), and how the food is presented on the plate based on the color pallet.

She's always been particular about the food, 'though at tastings, she barely tasted,' said Wolkoff. Her favorite items were lamb chops, steak, and French haricot verts. 

'But the dish she seemed to love serving at Vogue events over any other was chicken pot pie, ideal to Anna because it's a one-course meal that has everything (protein, vegetables, etc.). For dessert, she loved crème brûlée.'

At dinner, everything had been thought of down to the backless chairs for guests who wore gowns that wouldn't fit into a regular seat. When Kim Kardashian wore a skin tight latex Thierry Mugler dress in 2019, Wintour kept asking to Teen Vogue director, Lisa Love, 'Can you please tell her to sit down?' Love had to explain that, actually, Kardashian physically couldn't sit. 

Her directives in the past have often been so absurd 'the Met team just laughs them off,' Odell reported.

Two other people close to Wintour recalled a time that she asked the museum to cover up the historical Temple of Dendur - a 2,000-year-old Egyptian temple that she thought was an eyesore. When they didn't agree, she decided to cover it with Katy Perry's stage.

'Once, when walking through the Egyptian galleries, where the display cases were empty because they were being replaced, she turned to the Met team and said, 'Where is she? Yes, you—can you go into the basement and just bring up a bunch of art and put it in these cases?'' 

Today's table prices cost a minimum of $275,000 and individual tickets are $42,700. Wintour personally selects the 700-person guest list, that includes the biggest names in fashion, as well as emerging designers, Vogue cover stars, famous model, ingenues and actors from big films. 

'Anna created the whole entertainment and fashion world that was on the red carpet of the gala,' said Wolkoff in the book. 

But according to author Amy Odell, it wasn't always that way. Today's event is almost 'unrecognizable' compared to the first party Wintour hosted in 1995. 

News of Wintour's torrid affair with the married Texas financier, Shelby Bryan had splashed across the tabloids throughout the summer of 1999. 'I didn't like it. I was married,' said Bryan in the book. 'The press, as it turned out, I guess was correct, but they were getting ahead of our relationship.' The Met Gala (originally held in December) was meant to be the new couple's first public outing, but Wintour was left in tears when Shelby left the party early

The late Andre Leon Talley recalled how Wintour was reduced to tears at the 1999 Met Gala event, having barely slept in two days. He found her leaning against the wall, in her custom John Galliano gown, with 'mascara-laced tears running down her face' after having a public spat with Bryan. 'It was not correct for him to make her cry like that in public,' said Talley. 'She was vulnerable'

Oscar de la Renta escorted the fragile editor to her car by sneaking out the back of the museum in 1999. For Talley, it was only the second time he had seen Wintour breakdown in the thirty years working closely side by side

In 1995, when Wintour first hosted the Met Gala, a post dinner dance party in the museum's Temple of Dendur (built in 15 B.C) got so raucous, it ended in guests smoking, drinking and puking near the two-millennia-old monument. The dance party was officially axed a few years later after a Met staffer witnessed debauched women peeing in the Great Hall

Back then, tables only cost $1,000 and were open to anybody willing to foot the bill. A post dinner dance party in the museum's Temple of Dendur (built in 15 B.C.) was offered for the price of $150 to a younger crowd that often got so raucous, it ended in guests smoking, drinking and puking near the two-millennia-old monument. The dance party was officially axed a few years later after a Met staffer witnessed debauched women peeing in the Great Hall. 

'Anna was also always concerned about the behavior of everyone who might be there, from guests to waitstaff to performers,' said Wolkoff. According to another Vogue editor, if Wintour deemed that a guest was behaving badly, it would affect their prospects for Vogue coverage down the line.

Hyper aware of the image, Wintour made sure staffers working the event also looked the part. 'God forbid if they're fat, if they are unsightly, they have to go,' said former Vogue copywriter, Sarah Van Sicklen. 

In 1995, Wintour ordered apron dresses from Calvin Klein for her staff to wear. The women were stationed throughout the space, their job to direct guests to the bar or bathroom.

Today, a team of Vogue writers and digital staff work in the basement of them museum, furiously typing away at laptops to publish content to the fashion magazine's website. 

In 2018, Vogue went to the extent of hiring a 'movement coach' to direct guests in eight-second videos that showcased their outfits for Instagram. 

The basement workers are also expected to wear formal attire, and are usually allowed upstairs for a few minutes to watch the performance. All dresses on Vogue staff are photographed ahead of the event and given to Wintour's senior fashion editors for approval. 

1999 was the year that Wintour took over as chairperson and host of the Met Gala (which was hosted in December at the time). She had been coming off a particularly tumultuous year in her personal life. 

News of her torrid affair with the married Texas financier, Shelby Bryan had splashed across the tabloids throughout the summer. 'I didn't like it. I was married,' said Bryan in the book. 'The press, as it turned out, I guess was correct, but they were getting ahead of our relationship.'

Wintour finalized her divorce with child psychologist, David Schaffer in the fall, and went straight into the planning the Met Gala as its newly minted chairperson. 

Critics denounced the exhibits as commercialism masquerading as art. Wintour focused on fashion brands, who came in with big checks and forced society donors out of the way. Which Odell said, left wealthy New Yorkers 'seriously disgruntled.' Before adding that 'the Met Gala would never be the same.' 

At dinner, everything had been thought of down to the backless chairs for guests who wore gowns that wouldn't fit into a regular seat. When Kim Kardashian wore a skin tight latex Thierry Mugler dress in 2019, Wintour kept asking to Teen Vogue director, Lisa Love, 'Can you please tell her to sit down?' Love had to explain that, actually, Kardashian physically couldn't sit. 

Despite being famously strict, Wintour has made special arrangements over the years for the gala's biggest VIPs. The museum once paid $100,000 to charter a private jet that chauffeured Jay-Z and Beyoncé to the party

'In one publicity stunt feeding off another,' says Odell, 'Trump proposed to [Melania] Knauss at the 2004 Met Gala for the Dangerous Liaisons exhibit

George and Amal Clooney once requested – and were given – a private bar so they could have a drink away from the other (lesser, mere mortal) A-list celebrities. The museum also arranged to have its bookstore retrofitted with fancy furniture so Amal could have a private place to change clothes during the event

When it comes to the outfits, Wintour encourages guests to wear over-the-top looks. Longtime friend of Wintour's, Lisa Love, explained, 'It’s that English part of her. She’s loves a dress-up party.' For instance, Wintour especially loved Rihanna's yellow fur-trimmed cape gown in 2015, which the internet later critiqued that it like an egg omelet

The theme was 'Frock 'n' Roll' and the editor asked Tommy Hilfiger to be the sponsor after the designer had dubbed 1999 his 'Year of Music,' making Lenny Kravitz the face of his ad campaign and putting on two elaborate rock-themed fashion shows with performances by Sugar Ray and the band Bush. 

At the time, Wintour was in the process of replacing models with celebrity faces on the covers of Vogue and she liked Hilfiger's connection to the Hollywood set. Teen heartthrob, Jennifer Love Hewitt was the crown jewel of the evening, and was allowed (with the permission of Anna) to bring her mother as her date. 

'A Hilfiger partner, however, was encouraged not to bring family and friends, but to host glamorous people, like models from the Hilfiger ads,' wrote Odell. 

Collaborating with the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland proved to be a more difficult endeavor than originally expected. 

Prince allegedly wanted a cut of the Met's ticket sales. Madonna wanted her clothes to be in their own case, specifically not next to Britney Spears's. 

When securing Madonna's famous cone bra designed by Jean Paul Gaultier was in limbo, Wintour told the curator Jeff Daly, 'I don't care, figure it out. Make Madonna happy, make Michael Jackson's people happy, make the Beatles happy.' 

The list included the regular society dames: C. Z. Guest, Jayne Wrightsman, and Nan Kempner, as well as fashion luminaries such as Carolina Herrera and Oscar de la Renta. 

Sean 'Puff Daddy' Combs performed, with his girlfriend, Jennifer Lopez in tow. Causing Henry Kissinger to remark, 'Who is this fluff daddy?' 

Also present were: Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown, Christina Ricci, Maxwell, Elizabeth Hurley, Gwyneth Paltrow and her dad Bruce, Steven Tyler, Tom Ford, Missy Elliott, and Mary J. Blige. 

Lil' Kim wore a studded pink bikini, causing The Washington Post to remark that it 'would have caused the windows in the room to fog up, if there had been any.' 

'It was the flashiest and most shocking party the Met had ever thrown,' says Odell. Long gone were the wooden Uptown New York galas of years past, Wintour cemented her future as its reigning Empress. 

The party raised $3million for the museum, but despite its raging success, Wintour ended the night tears. Having barely slept in two days, Andre Leon Talley, found her leaning against the wall, in her custom John Galliano gown, wrapped in red  fox fur, with 'mascara-laced tears running down her face.' 

In 2003, Wintour asked Tom Ford to be her co-host. As far as details go, Ford was preoccupied with the appearance of the waiters working the event. He demanded their hair be perfectly slicked back and hired staff 'like a casting call,' Wolkoff said

According to Odell, 2019 was the first year Wintour left her perch just inside the museum entrance to watch Lady Gaga's dramatic red carpet arrival as she stripped down four outfits into a pair of glittery underwear. The whole event took sixteen minutes and Wintour had previously approved the extra time

The evening was intended to be her first public outing with then boyfriend, Shelby Bryan, but he left the event early. 'It was not correct for him to make her cry like that in public,' said Talley. 'She was vulnerable.' 

Oscar de la Renta escorted the fragile editor to her car by sneaking out the back of the museum. For Talley, it was only the second time he had seen Wintour breakdown in the thirty years working closely side by side. 

In 2003, Wintour met her match when she asked Tom Ford to be her co-host. As far as details go, Ford was preoccupied with the appearance of the waiters working the event. He demanded their hair be perfectly slicked back and hired staff 'like a casting call,' Wolkoff said.

The designer also wanted to approve the menu and table settings, so they arranged for a chef to fly to London for a demonstration. 'What we served had to look right on the plate together. I not only had to see it plated, but if the colors didn't work together of the vegetables and the whatever, they had to go,' Ford told Odell.

When Wintour fussed over Ford's expulsion of carrots, he told her: 'They're orange, they can't go next to that color, that doesn't look good. It's just not going to happen.' 

She attended that year’s gala wearing a slim, silky white gown by John Galliano, with a dramatic feathered jacket and Wolkoff remembers how she was especially 'militant'  about moving people along if they spent more than twenty seconds talking to her as she greeted them at the top of the stairs. About 80 percent of the attendees that year wore something she had previously approved. 

'The only thing about the Met that I wish hadn’t happened is that it’s turned into a costume party,' Ford laments. 'You didn’t have to look like the eighteenth century, you didn’t have to dress like a hamburger, you didn’t have to arrive in a van where you were standing up because you couldn’t sit down because you wore a chandelier.' 

When it comes to the outfits, Wintour encourages guests to wear over-the-top looks. Longtime friend of Wintour's, Lisa Love, explained, 'It’s that English part of her. She’s loves a dress-up party.'

For instance, Wintour especially loved the yellow fur-trimmed cape gown Rihanna wore in 2015, which the internet later derided that it looked like an egg omelet. 

Her flair for performance was witnessed in 2019, the first year Wintour left her perch just inside the museum entrance to watch Lady Gaga's dramatic red carpet arrival as she stripped down four outfits into a pair of glittery underwear. The whole event took sixteen minutes (Wintour had previously approved the extra time). 'Anna, a devoted theatergoer, loved it,' says Odell. 

Wintour believes that a party's greatest currency is its guests. And thus, she has turned seating arrangements into an exact science. 'She likes conversation,' says Lisa Love. She breaks up couples, mixes cultures and backgrounds and takes people out of their comfort zone. 

There was always special attention paid to personal rivalries, or secrets - for instance when Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony started dating and wanted to keep their relationship secret - Wintour seated them back-to- back at separate tables. 

'Every area had someone that was prominent enough for everyone to see around them, but they didn’t feel that they were next to the bathroom,' Wolkoff says in the book.

At one party, Wintour sat Susanne Bartsch, a party promoter known as 'Mother Teresa in a glittering G-string,' next to former Secretary of State, Henry Kissinger.  

The editrix scrutinizes the seating chart for the Met Gala, 'as if the wrong pairing posed a national security risk,' joked her assistant Gabé Doppelt. 'We'd sit there with Post-its, putting uptown together with downtown, and it was just the most bizarre thing but we did it, and it worked.'

There are, of course, always a handful of guests that Wintour will make special arrangements for its biggest stars.

The museum once paid $100,000 to charter a private jet that chauffeured Jay-Z and Beyoncé to the party. Karl Lagerfeld desired beverage, Coca Cola Light, was under lock and key in a museum office. If someone wanted a certain brand of tequila placed under their table, Vogue staff would make sure to have a bottle of it on hand.

George and Amal Clooney requested – and were given – a private bar so they could have a drink away from the other (lesser, mere mortal) A-list celebrities. The museum also arranged to have its bookstore retrofitted with fancy furniture so Amal could have a private place to change clothes during the event. 

When the Chinese government refused to loan items to the Met for the China: Through the Looking Glass exhibit, Wintour made a day trip to meet with government officials to convince them otherwise.    

Despite the museum allegedly pushing to lower the cost of the event, the staff member claimed that Wintour wants the glamorous soirée to be bigger and better every year - using 4,000 pound floral arrangements at last year's Gala, for example. 

While the costs and extravagance have gone up over the years, so have the funds raised. In 2011, the total profit was $7.5million after $5million was spent on party expenses. In 2018, Wintour spent $8.5million on the gala, with a net profit $12million after.

'Some would argue it also grew in sheer profligacy, as the museum attempted to realize every one of Anna's desires to improve the quality of the party,' writes Odell. 'Yet in her mind, every decision she made was about driving up that cost to raise more and more money for the museum.'